As a parent you have an enormous obligation to find the perfect balance between loving and disciplining your child, particularly since so many emotional aspects must be taken into account. These may start with imagined or real fears your child is feeling, to coping with his or her anger management. To balance love and discipline is a long and difficult process. No matter what the situation, you have to turn big troubles and chaos into peaceful and loving atmospheres. Unfortunately, this technique is something you learn by experience.
As you've undoubtedly found, if you are too lenient, your child will simply run all over you. If you are too strict, your child's spirit can be crushed, leaving you with a fuming rebel. There is only one key: love must be the basis of all discipline which should be balanced according to your child's personality.
It will help you and your child to set specific ground rules and be steady in your reinforcement. You have to ensure that your child understands the clear line between disobedience and obedience. It is vital that you set punishments suitable to the offence so that your child can grow up to be a productive and happy member of society. And always remember that a child needs fair discipline for security.
